DISH Addendum: The Noble Knight

dear diva,

im dying to know, so what is the difference between a diva and a
princess?

have you heard of look, but don't touch approach?

beyond the chastity belt, there is chastity you know, without the whip.

I am a woman, who meets unightly knights, who want to mess around,
but don't want their princesses to.
this is called a double standard.

i am very very good at sex.
and very happy with men (plural)
but i am smart enough to know that it is too complicated to keep a
bunch of insecure men in check all at once.

but enough of me..........back to the errant and erratic erotic
knight.....sometimes the feeling is like this. hey, you don't want to
limit yourself, but you want me to. and then even when im being
faithful, the roving knights whole trip is caught so much up in guilt
that they end up accusing their princess of things they are not even
doing.
personally, i take the look but dont touch approach when in the
throes of caught up in a badly nighted knight syndrome.

guinivere

Dear Guinevere,

Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me asking for clarification.

Diva: The term derives from an ancient Italian word meaning "goddess", which, in turn derives from the feminine form of a Latin word divus, meaning "divine one".

Princess: Princess- is the feminine form of prince (Latin princeps, meaning principal citizen).

When I use the term DIVA, I refer to honoring myself as a Wisdom Keeper for my people.
Someone who is cognizant of and connected to their divine spark. I would use it the same way to honor another woman.

When I use the term PRINCESS, I refer to a woman who is growing her ability to become a queen. Yet, she may still have areas in which she is unconcious and underveloped.

I use the term KNIGHT to refer to a man who is in service of his community, his quest and/or women.

A man who is soley using women to meet his own needs for touch, to matter and for sexual expression IS NOT a NOBLE KNIGHT.

I would consider his behavior to be a TRAGIC strategy to meet what would otherwise be beautiful CORE UNIVERSAL NEEDS OF:

• Touch
• To Matter
• Sexual Self Expression

I am guessing that you sometimes feel irritated and frustrated about the behavior/choices/strategies of some men to get their needs met.

I am guessing that you have strong CORE UNIVERSAL needs for:

• Integrity
• Honesty
• To Matter
• Emotional Safety
• Fairness
• Mutuality

I have researched and experienced that the foundation of beautiful relationships for women and for men include:

• Compassion
• Boundaries
• Clear (non attacking) communication
• Integrity (the ability to keep one's agreements)
• Honesty
• Sacred Sexuality

In my experience, we human beings are ALL on the journey to heal, become ever more conscious, develop skill sets and grow our ability to love ourselves and one another.
AND we all make mistakes.

I encourage you to continue to set COMPASSIONATE Boundaries around the behaviors that are hurtful to your spirit. And to continue to envision, and call into your life, the types of relating that nourish your soul.

NOTE:
Boundaries without compassion = Tyrant
Compassion without boundaries = Victim
Compassion WITH Boundaries = Sacred Relating

I imagine that you are a deligtful woman of strong passions, creativity and vision.

Warmth and blessings,
Francesca