DISH: Prepping Kitchen FlamesDIVA LOVE DISH – Friday: 5/12/06 Share the DISH . . . Dear Diva, I'm tired of being alone on the path of sacred sexuality. It sucks. Part of me thinks there has to be someone out there who is my IDEAL. Part of me thinks there is no ideal. It's all B.S. Am I screwed? Dan - Hungry, Horny, Holy and Hopeless ****** Caro Seeker of the Soul's Mate, What you are describing is the soul's longing for its mate (or mates). Some of my teachers say there is only one. One of my favorite teachers, Helen Wambaugh who wrote “Life Before Life,” says that we are reborn again and again with our Soul Group. We evolve together. Our path is to evolve our capacity to love. How do we find, recover, discover or CALL TO our Soul Mate(s) our Kindred Spirits? THE PARADOX: We often long for the Soul Mate to complete us, fulfill us and SAVE us from our loneliness. The PARADOX IS that as we heal our spirits, find our life purpose, and become Soulfully Fulfilled, we irresistibly manifest our Shining Soul Mate(s). As we become radiant, we meet our Shining (bright) Soul Mirror. THE CHALLENGE: Sometimes one of our soulmates takes on the challenge of being our dark catalyst, our mirror, our crucible, and stirring pot, our Cataclysmic Soul Mate. In “Past Lives, Future Loves” by Dick Sutphen, we learn that each beloved partner is a soul's mate, and that we have been born again together to complete our learnings. This Shadow Soulmate carries and stirs up our negative shadow projections. HOW DO WE KNOW WE HAVE ENCOUNTERED A SHADOW ISSUE: Anytime we find ourselves saying: - He/She is sooooo _______________ (angry, selfish, unconscious, manipulative, dishonest, withholding, competitive, jealous, judgmental, etc) - I'm not a ____________(selfish, manipulative, withholding, dishonest, angry, jealous, competitive, judgmental, etc) person. We have encountered one of our SHADOW Projection issues. (SHADOW: That which is unconscious, denied, repressed, rejected. )When we bring a Shadow Issue to consciousness, embrace it, claim it, dialogue with it, learn from it, it becomes a treasured ally. SADLY – Our culture teaches us that we should always be happy, that anger and sadness are bad, that “good” people have no dark side. It teaches us to suppress our feelings, our core universal needs, our visionary wants, and our shadow. In Sacred Loving our beloved, and what they stir in us, become an opportunity to recover what we have suppressed in our own soul and to love ourselves more fully. PREPPING THE FLAMES: If we truly wish to call to our Shining Joyfilled Soulmate, it is time to take on doing our INNER WORK even more profoundly. Whether we are in a relationship or not in a relationship, PREPPING THE INNER FLAMES will call to and catalyze the highest and best in our Soul Mate(s). Sacred Loving embraces the power of EROS. Once a week( or more), we go to our own Temple Kitchen (which is our own body.) With candles, sweet scents, oils/lotions, and delicious music, we breathe and relax. (NOTE: This is NOT the time to use pornography nor to think about anyone else. This is about fanning the fire of Self-LOVE.) Cooking up our own Sacred Erotic Fires spiced with Self-Love takes a minimum of 30 minutes. (Unplug that phone. Get the kids a sitter. Put the pet outside the room.) This is the time to slowly caress our body from head to toe blessing each chakra, blessing each part. Thank you hands for being strong, for being agile. I bless and thank you feet for caring my on my life journey. I bless and thank you genitals for carrying my passion and my pleasure . Etc. Etc. ETC. We take our time. We caress the face and neck. We periodically include the genitals. It is normal to feel sadness, joy, pleasure or anger. It is normal to want to stop, to run or to feel the pain and longing for there to be an external beloved to do this blessing. KEEP WITH IT. BLESS THE FEELINGS. We keep blessing our body, our heart, our spirit. We keep caressing. We will feel passion/Eros rising. This is the time to envision our Sacred Inner Flame. It is the flame of our soul. It is the flame of our life. It is the flame of our heart. It is the flame of our Eros. As the passion and arousal rise, we envision the flame burning ever brighter. It is like a lighthouse calling out throughout the universe . It is letting our Beloved(s) know that we are ready (or becoming ready) to meet them. If we choose to cook all the way to release of Erotic Energy, we envision a burst of supernova energy flowing out to bless ourselves, the world, and our soulmate(s). For Prepping the Inner Flames of Eros I recommend: Reading books on Sacred Love and Sacred Sexuality and sex for one.
I recommend watching videos that focus on Sacred Sexuality:
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